Marriage (May God Have Mercy On Its Worshipers)

Just to be clear, I am not a Yahoodi Sazish but I will be going out on a limb with this article, as most of you will disagree or chant "Kaafir! Kaafir!" outside my house. And not because of my religious but social beliefs. A 25 year old girl, living in our society and single (socially acceptable version of being single i.e. not married and does not Astaghfirullah refer to having a boyfriend) , has diverted from Sirat al-Mustaqim. Her job is to be a baby-maker not God forbids an entrepreneur.

Why is she playing football, shouldn’t she be making Gol Rotis? Infidel! Why is that our life revolves around marriage? Why is that every person, from all the Rishta Aunties, Phupos and Khalas, our own parents to that woman you saw in the supermarket, who lives in the street of your colleague, who works on the third floor in the IT Department, wants to see you get married. As soon as the girl enters her 20s it’s like a Pamplona Festival.

Not a single soul will rest until one of them hits you, and will collectively continue to do so . Thing is, we have made marriage our priority, answer to our every problem. “Oh you‘re 22, get married!” “Want new clothes? Get married!” ”Are you lonely? Get married!” “Is your dog sick? Get married!” “Your aunt’s mother-in-law died, get married!” And the worst, WORST of all “Don’t want to study? Get married!” When did we reach a point where it is OK to have uneducated children but hell break lose when financial independence is prioritized over marriage.

Please! It is NOT an answer and it should NOT be a priority. It is a status. And to me this status must come after financial independence and psychological acceptance of spending your whole life with someone. It should not be based on societal pressure or because the guy is from the UK or it would make your parents happy. Everyone has their own mental capacity of accepting it and when you force or emotionally blackmail your daughter or sister of this arrangement it is abuse. Before your mind starts giving religious irrational logic, I’m not against marriage. But to me, it is status of personal capability which should be obtained after reaching financial and mental maturity. It is a shame and I would call it an abuse if parents spend more money on their child’s matrimony, regardless of gender, and less on their education.